regrets?

i have a friend (shocking i know) who i was talking to one monday morning and she was telling me about her weekend. i can't remember exactly how she put it, but she was saying something about regretting what she had done, although she enjoyed it at the time, so the fact that what she did didn't feel bad maybe made her not regret it so much.

i dunno, this is sounding rather obvious and i can think of a lot of circumstances where someone may enjoy doing something at the time and then regret it after, for example, doing drugs or sleeping with someone or a bunch of other stuff (none of which is what happened - thought i'd clarify that), but whether or not it is something to regret? like maybe you regret something for one reason, but maybe you don't because of a billion others? and when you think about what happened somewhere in you knows that it wasn't necessarily a good idea because of possible outcomes, yet you can't help but smile a bit inside because the memory makes you happy? and does it make it a sin if somewhere in you feels like you should be apologising to God for what happened? not that what happened is one of those black and white this-is-a-sin, this-is-not, kinda things, but maybe the circumstances made it wrong? even so, though, it's better to apologise, and after you do and things seem to be more in the open i guess it makes it easier to look back and say, 'ok, maybe that was a mistake, but i don't feel the guilt because i know i'm forgiven', and maybe just knowing and feeling that forgiveness makes it easier not to regret at all. especially if you choose not to. telling people is definitely a way of feeling less guilty, if you feel like even though you've been forgiven, the hiding stuff and not letting it out into the light is a problem. which it is. and once you've got the forgiveness, telling someone seems to be the right thing to do anyways. 'tis a way of feeling better, sharing. that's what friends are for! telling someone who loves you, will listen, and also knows a bit (or a lot) about that sort of situation is good.

a problem with situations though, is they tend to involve other people, which means making sure stuff is right on the relational front too, and not just within yourself. and even if you've got yourself right, chances are, once you start talking to the other person other stuff will be brought up and situations will become complicated again. hm. i have to go, end of class time. getting kicked out of the room. maybe more on this later.